Don't Compare Your Beginning to Someone Else's Middle

I had a totally different post planned for today, but this one was tugging at my heart and I had to share it. 

I recently attended a networking event hosted by a coach. I walked in the door and promptly went into a downward shame spiral.

This coach had been in business for less than a year, and had a full roster of clients. She had an adorable house in a neighborhood that I loved. She had a nice outfit and a beautiful engagement ring. 

I felt like such a loser.

I was eying her up and what she was saying and comparing it to my life. I had thoughts like "She's so successful, why can't I be like that?" "She really has it all figured out, I want to be like her." "I suck because I haven't had success like her."

Does this sound familiar? Have you done this with someone that has a job you envy? Or a relationship that you wish you had? Or a family with kids and a house?

Comparison and judging are completely natural. 

Don't feel bad for looking at someone else and saying "I want what they have."

The part of the equation that we need to stop is when we start making it mean that you're not good enough, that you don't deserve what he/she has, that you should already have it. That's the toxic part.

Those thoughts make you feel awful. I call it a Compare and Despair hangover. You've been comparing and beating yourself up, and now you feel gross. 

It's not about shaming yourself for looking different or for someone being ahead of you on the path. It's not a game where someone wins and loses because they get to a destination first. 

Your timing is perfect for you. Seeing someone ahead of you and wishing you were there is giving you a clue about what you want.

If you were walking down the street you wouldn't look at someone ahead of you and say you should be that far. No, you haven't walked that far yet. You also don't know where they're coming from, and maybe they had a different starting point.

Your path is simply that- Yours. 

Now, let's get to work.

Who has a life that you are eying up? What about their life do you want? Write it down. For example: "Angela has a great house with a cute well-behaved dog and a loving husband. She has a business that brings in lots of money and has a full calendar of appointments."

Now, take out the name of that other person and make it about you. Write it exactly the same but about yourself. "I have a great house with a cute well-behaved dog and a loving husband..." Write it as if it has already happened, and then read it back to yourself. How does that feel? Imagine that life. Bam. You just tapped into your desires. 

Doesn't it feel good to have a better idea about what you want? 

Share your desires with someone you value. Tell them what you really want. Speaking your desires is incredibly powerful and motivating. If you'd like to share them with me, I would be honored to hear them. Hit reply and send your goals my way. I will be cheering you on!

xoxo,
Sarah

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The Moment I Realized I Gave Up My Dream

Picture this...

I gave myself 6 weeks to do a cross country road trip. Most of the time would be alone. All of the driving was alone with me and some audiobooks or music. Most nights were alone, with the exception of an occasional roommate at an Airbnb. 
 
All this alone time is hell for most people I know. But I was ok with it, and I was up for that challenge.
 
I was 8 days into the trip when I got to a small Montana town on the outskirts of Yellowstone. I found the world’s coziest roadside motel, decorated with the owner’s wildlife photography and photos of a bear they hired for a photoshoot. I was the only person staying there that night. 
 
When I woke up, something felt weird as I drove to Yellowstone and noticed the mountains looming. Late October in Yellowstone is really off-season and winter is coming. The place is pretty empty except for a few travelers, lots of bison and other wild animals.
 
I planned to hike so I picked up a map and the obligatory bear spray. I parked my car at an overlook and looked deep into a gorge below. I froze. I felt completely overwhelmed and like my limbs were too heavy to move. It felt like a sudden onset of depression, but I didn't know what was going on. 
 
I looked at the map. I looked down the path. I looked down the gorge at the rushing water. I was surrounded by so much natural beauty and yet I felt a deep sadness. I watched a couple stop for a photo, and then I finally had the words to identify what was happening.

I was sad because I had no one to share this experience with. 

 
Don’t get me wrong. I’m incredibly independent. I’m not afraid of being alone (except for being alone and encountering a bear.). I even love traveling alone because of all the freedom. 

But all I wanted was My Person to share it all with. Not just a friend or traveling buddy. I wanted my lobster, to quote the TV show Friends.
 
Before this, I had given up on ever finding a partner. I figured I wasn’t meant for the life that I wanted because I hadn't even come close to meeting a worthy partner. I would embrace my status as Single By Choice.
 
I abandoned my true heart’s desire because it seemed too hard. 
 
In that moment in Yellowstone I felt that changing the goal wasn’t the answer. I truly accepted that I wanted to be partnered. I wanted someone to be a witness to my life – to be my cheerleader and support when I needed it and to expand my capacity for love to a greater depth than what I could do on my own. I WANTED LOVE.
 
This wasn’t being Single By Choice. I was single because I had given up on getting what I really wanted. And what I really wanted was still tugging at my heart. 
 
The sadness that I felt that day helped me see what was really important. Sadness's job is to point out that something that you value appears to be missing. 

Don’t give up the dream because it seems hard. You don’t change the goal because it hasn’t worked out yet.

If you want love, you absolutely deserve it. I believe that 100%. If you really want a partner, you can have that partner. 
 
Never, ever, evergive up on your dream. No one else gets to tell you what your dream gets to be or how big it is. That dream was given to you because you can achieve it. It's up to you to figure out how to achieve it. It's planted as a fire in your belly and you must tend to the fire and do everything it takes to make it a reality. 

What is tugging at your heart? Don't listen to the voice that says "Yeah, but..." Right now, I just want you to listen for the little voice that is whispering "I still really want..." 

You don't need to know how you're going to get it or when it's going to happen. Right now, I just want you to listen for that voice and let it be heard. 

Comment below and tell me the thing you still really want. Say it out loud. Let me or someone that cares about you witness you.

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You Are Stronger Than You Know

When I ran my first marathon back in October, there were a few times on that course I thought I was going to quit. I thought I had nothing left and that this course broke me. I thought I was stupid for even trying. 
 
I distinctly remember hitting the Mile 20 marker. I thought my running coach was going to be there cheering me on, and I couldn’t see her anywhere. I was done, that was my sign it was time to just give up. As I pondered exactly how to do this, I looked up and saw a woman holding a sign. 
 
Let me tell you this. The people on the course are angels. They have signs that make you laugh, and they are cheering you on even though they don’t know you. It’s a blessing to see strangers showing up for other strangers that are doing something really challenging.
 
This woman stood there tall, with a determined look on her face and held a sign that said, “You Are Stronger Than You Know.” And I could have cried because she was right. I had more in me. I had more strength.
 
I don’t know where it came from, but I got a second wind (let’s be honest it was probably my seventh wind). And I kept going. My coach was at mile 21, surprisingly, and I took thatas a sign to definitely keep going.
 
It’s like that Marianne Williamson quotesays that our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We are more afraid of our light than our dark. 
 
As I look back on the moments that challenged me to the breaking point, I see how often I ran from fear of pain. I was so afraid that I would have pain or suffering that I quit. I thought, I am not strong enough for this and I don’t want to feel pain so this must not be for me. 
 

In those times I never let myself see how strong I really am. 

 
I could have quit at mile 20, but I didn’t. I still ran 6.2 more miles. And I DID IT. I didn’t think I could, but I did it. Yes, I am strong than I know. 
 

I have more to give, even when it’s hard. 

 
And in hindsight, the pain I feared was not so bad. Yes, there was a little bit of pain. Yes, I it was really hard and I had to dig deep.
 
But after it was over, I felt amazing. It was pure joy and pride that stays with me even now. 
 
That is what waits on the other side of things that seem too hard. If we have the ability to hang on through a tough spot, we can reach joy. We can touch greatness. And we see what we are truly capable of.
 
Where are you feeling afraid right now? Where are you bracing yourself for pain? Where are you trying to avoid feeling uncomfortable, hurt, or disappointed? I bet there is a gem for you waiting on the other side if you just keep going.
 
Who in your life needs a reminder of their greatness? Hit forward on this email and share the inspiration. Tell them that you believe in them and you see what they are capable of. Sometimes it’s easier to see it from the outside and it helps to hear it. Be someone else’s angel holding a sign that tells them “you are stronger than you know.”

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A Bit About Doubt and Manifesting

I got curious and started studying manifestation a few months ago, and I’m seeing a pattern that I want to share.
 
When we are in doubt, we are robbing ourselves the opportunity to have what we want. One of my manifestation mentors Denise Duffield Thomas tells this story that I’m going to paraphrase.
 
She was driving with her husband. Denise runs a million-dollar business, but with that comes plenty of expenses. Of course, she has her house to pay for, her kids, and bills. But she also has payroll, services, contractors, events, and so forth that she has to pay for. She was in a moment thinking “I don’t have enough. There isn’t going to be enough.”
 
She was doubting. She wasn’t sure she was going to have enough to pay her expenses. 
 
Maybe that blows your mind that someone could have a million-dollar business and not be able to have enough money. Maybe it surprises you that someone who teaches manifestation for a living would have a moment of doubt and worry about not enough. And maybe you’re looking at it very logically that if there isn’t enough money, there simply isn’t enough money and there isn’t going to be any more. 
 
But her husband, who knew her well, caught her doubt. He said “That doesn’t really sound like you. You always say there’s always more.” Denise shook herself out of the moment and said, “Yeah, you’re right. There’s always more money.”
 
And right then a wad of 50 Australian dollar notes smacked her car and blew all over the road. She said it was probably 1,000 dollars’ worth. And she and her husband burst out laughing.
 
I can’t make this up. And if she made it up, I don’t really care because I think it illustrates a point. 
 
When we are doubting, we can’t see opportunity. Roads close down and we wind up in a very laser focus perspective. And usually that perspective is not pointing in a direction that will help us. 
 
I want you to know there is always hope. 
 
No matter what you’re facing. There is always more love. There is always more money. There is always more opportunity. There is always more creativity and joy. 
 
When you are completely full of love, what’s at the core of that is hope. That feeling you have after a really great date is hope. That feeling of falling in love and being in love is actually hope. When you nail the presentation, get the promotion, book the travel you are feeling hope. 

What if we did that more? Instead of worrying and getting stuck in doubt and not enough thoughts, what if we leaned into hope? What might shift and open up for you?
 
Let’s change the game. Throw away the old ways. When you catch yourself worrying, you found something you really care about! You can celebrate that you found something that is worth your time, attention and energy. You’re worrying you won’t get what you want, but we know that doesn't work. It's time to bring in the big guns, it's time for hope. I challenge you to switch your thinking to loving, rejoicing and knowing that it is on it’s way to you. How can you spark that hope inside of you?
 
It’s not working the old way, so I challenge you to try something new. It feels so much better, I promise you.
 
Now it’s your turn. Have you shifted your perspective? And if you did, what happened? What’s new for you just by catching yourself in worry-mode and shifting into hope? 
 
I want to hear from you! Hit reply and tell me your story.  Share in the comments below!

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You Don't Have to Do Anything

I felt inspired to share the following metaphor with you.

Imagine that you are a beautiful glass vase. There is a pitcher of water pouring into you. In the water contains all the things you need to live the life you want- Joy. Love. Belonging. Enthusiasm. It is an endless flow, and it will continue to pour for infinity.

Most people I know have this flow coming into their lives and they feel that they have to share it with everyone. "I gotta give the love to my family." "I gotta share this with my partner." "I gotta spread this to work projects." They keep tipping over their vase so they can spill the flow and spread it around.

It's a bit messy. Water is spilling, but people are getting access to it. Maybe not the most efficient way all the time, but they are getting it.

What do you think happens to a glass vase that keeps tipping over?

It breaks.

But what if you stood straight up, tall and proud of your own beauty, and allowed that flow of watery goodness to pour into you? An endless stream of goodness will fill you up and eventually you will overflow. And all that goodness is going to go everywhere. It’s going to spread to all those people that you care about.

All because you filled yourself up with goodness and you had more than enough to go around.

How are you taking care of yourself?

Where are you tipping over? And, more importantly, why?

I wanted to give you a way to tap into your own flow self love so you can feel yourself being filled up. That endless flow of goodness actually is available to you. It is so much easier to tap into than you might think. 

I recorded a meditation for you. If you're new to meditation or hesitant, that's ok. You just have to sit and listen to my voice talk to you. 

It's my gift to you and you can download it here. 

After you listen to the meditation, what comes up for you? Comment belowand share with me. I would love to hear from you. 

Sending love to you today.

Use the Good Lotion

I recently attended a retreat in Savannah with my coach Susan Hyatt. My coach loves creating luxurious experiences for her clients. When I arrived at the retreat, I received fresh flowers next to my bed and a gift bag of wonderful skin care products. My favorite was this amazing lotion.
 
I loved everything about it. It was a natural product and it smelled great. Plus it was lush and immediately soaked into my skin. Luxurious, for sure.
 
I used it just on the first night, and carefully packed it away to take home. I got home and displayed it in a place where I could see it every day. And there it sat. Waiting for the perfect occasion.
 
I was waiting for a special fancy night out where I would take a hot bath and then rub this into my skin so I would feel luxurious as I got ready for my fancy night. I wanted to wait for a time I wanted to be completely glam. 
 
I was looking at this beautiful jar of lotion in the bathroom and realized I don’t live a life full of fancy nights. I like coziness. And I completely forgot to use the good lotion recently on Valentine's Day for my hot date. If I keep waiting for the perfect occasion, that nice lotion will probably never be used.
 
What a waste.
 
What even makes something worthy of this kind of nice lotion? How fancy is the right amount of fancy? How will I know when I’ve met my own self-imposed criteria for a nice occasion? It was so ambiguous. 
 
Why can’t I feel luxury every day? What is stopping me?
 
The answer that came back surprised me.
 
I told myself, “I’m not good enough for that yet.” 
 
And, bam, I busted it open. I immediately saw that this negative thought wasn't true and it was sabotaging me and my own personal success. Those subconscious thoughts sometimes sneak up on us and when get to dig them up and do the work on making them align with what we want. 

 I am still a work in progress. I still have negative thoughts and sabotaging patterns. I still get to hire a coach and do the deep work. It's all a part of the journey of becoming the best version of me.
 

Your turn. What's your version of the good lotion? What's that thing you're holding onto until it's the perfect occasion? Comment below and tell me about your story. 

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The Lost Art of Connection

I have one client who I will call J, and she is always telling me how much she hates the dating apps. “I spend all this time reading profiles, swiping, and sending messages but no one actually asks me out. I don’t go on that many dates. And when I do, I know almost immediately that it’s a bad fit. These apps just don’t work, they’re a waste of time,” she tells me.


And I agree with her. She was using the apps to feel less bored and less alone. She was finding temporary distraction and what seemed like connection through the apps, but it wasn’t satisfying.
 

I want to bring back the lost art of connection.
 

J is struggling because she feels bad for being lonely. She’s lacking connection so she logs onto the dating apps and searches for connection there. Even if it doesn’t work out perfectly it feels slightly better than doing nothing at all. But it’s still a let down.

She was afraid to try real life connection because deep down she was afraid of being rejected. And that fear felt waaaay worse than the disappointing dates.

Wanting connection is innate in human beings. If you're feeling lonely, CONGRATULATIONS! YOU'RE HUMAN! We all want connection. 

We over-complicate connection. We focus so much on “Does the other person like me?” and we never ask “Do I like him/her?”

It’s really not important if they like you. The little known secret is that people like us when we like them. When we are focusing on the qualities we like about another person, we will see more things that we like, and we begin building strings of connection.

I challenge you to flip the script in your brain. Drop all the importance and fuss around “Do they like me?” It doesn’t matter. There are 7 billion people on this planet and the only person who REALLY has to like you is YOU. And maybe your mom. Everyone else is a bonus and there are literally billions of people that have the potential to like you, so this one person is just a drop in the sea.

The question you need to be asking is “Do I like this person? Do I like who I become and how I feel when I am around this person?” When your answer is yes, then you have a foundation to expand on.

Your turn. The next time you are spending time with anyone (it can be a date, a friend, or a family member) ask yourself that question. And then take the answer and use it to decide if this person is worth connecting with.

Spend more time with people that make you feel good, spend less time and energy with people that make you feel less than good. This is how we build connection and have more fulfilling relationships.

This kind of advice might put me out of business, because it makes dating so simple. Try out this simple shift in your thinking, and I guarantee that the quality of your relationships will skyrocket because of this.

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Have a Great Valentines Day No Matter What

Valentine's Day is a bit overrated.

And that is coming from someone that loves love. 

I love everything about the celebration of love, but I could do without all the extra commercialism and pressure that comes with Valentine's Day. Can you relate? 

My proposal this year is to celebrate love without the extra hype. And you can do this if you are in a relationship, single or it's complicated. 

Because at the end of the day, the best love you are going to receive is the love you give yourself. 

I want to help you celebrate love in a way that feels good to you and does not involve spending a ton of money, or feeling guilty for a ton of extra calories in wine and chocolates. Let's make this a real love fest!

Here are my best tips to celebrate a Valentine's Day that doesn't suck and celebrates you and everything you love about you:
 

1. Write yourself a love letter. What is so great about you? What is uniquely you that no one else does? Write yourself a letter or a series of notes to remind yourself how wonderful you are. 

2. Give yourself a little massage. After you get out of the shower, take some time to put on lotion and really massage your body as you rub it in. As you go along, give some appreciation to each body part. "Thank you legs for your strength in carrying me around all day. Thank you booty for giving me something to shake when I dance." You get the picture. Get creative, and be real. No shaming allowed.

3. Spend time in nature. Nature is one of the places where I can connect with myself and the world around me. I appreciate all the beauty around me and my part in it. This makes me feel special and a part of a bigger picture. It's humbling and fills me with lovely feelings.

4. Put on some music and dance it out.I like to put my playlists on shuffle and dance out whatever comes up. Let the emotions flow and surrender to the shuffle button. But if you want to conjure a certain feeling, play music that is in alignment with that. Want energy? Put on music that pumps you up and get moving! 

5. Self pleasure. You didn't think I'd get through an entire post about self love and not talk about giving yourself the pleasure of an orgasm?! There are SO many health benefits - increased blood flow, release of tension, and a natural rush of endorphins (among many other benefits). There is no shame in doing this for yourself without a partner, you know exactly what you like and what you need. :) 

I challenge you to celebrate yourself on Valentine's Day and then tell me all about it. I want all the juicy details. So comment below and tell me how you're celebrating.
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What's your baggage? (And how to finally let it go)

You know the expression "rose colored glasses?" Have you ever wondered where those glasses come from? Who the hell actually has these magical glasses that let us see the world and all the people in their best light? If you know, please tell me because I'd really like a pair.

I had a moment of total insecurity and panic this past weekend. While I was hustling and working on my business, I was sucker punched by irrational jealousy. 

My boyfriend was going skiing with a group of friends. And when he told me who was in the group, my stomach was instantly in knots. This made no sense, because I knew the woman I felt anxious about and I knew her boyfriend. 

And yet there it was. Irrationally jealousy and tight anxiousness in my chest and stomach. My mind was racing, which is always a sign that I'm not going to be showing up as my best self. Even when I brought this up to my boyfriend on the phone, in hopes of dissipating the power of the jealousy, I still couldn't shake it. Neither one of us knew what was going on or what to do to make it better. All I could think of was that it was a carry over from being cheated on in a previous relationship.

It was clear this was not about my current relationship. This was something from my past that needed attention and healing. 

Luckily, I was in a group full of life coaches, and one of them talked me through this in the car ride to dinner. She told me about the glasses that we wear as me move through our lives. These glasses are forged from our past experiences, because we embrace this idea that our past is a predictor of the future. 

So in my past, I was hurt because I was cheated on and I thought I should have seen the warning signs. So now the glasses taint my experiences as it works overtime trying to find warning signs to prevent future hurt. 

We have a choice in our lives. We do not have to choose to bring our past experiences into the future. 

We can choose a new future.

She directed me to look at the facts of the moment. What do I know for certain right now? And what do I choose to believe in the moment? 

"A belief is just a thought you keep thinking." -Abraham Hicks

I was able to release that my past wasn't going to repeat in my future. I could reassure myself of the trust I have in my relationship with my boyfriend. 

If this was a Hallmark movie, that would be the end of the story. I would choose a new future and it would unfold in front of me. But I want to share all the story with you because maybe something will resonate for you.

The jealousy didn't go away completely. It came back the next day while I was standing in an airport thinking about the situation. And as I was thinking through this, the repetitive familiar announcement came over the speakers "Keep an eye on your baggage at all times. Do not leave your baggage unattended."

Hmm, I think I've left some baggage unattended. 

The baggage of totally healing from the past, and letting go of this story of "the other woman." I was still feeling all kinds of pain about the other woman that was part of my past. I was still pointing my finger at her and blaming her for my bad feelings.

And I was getting reminded of her because this woman that I felt jealous of in this moment had the same exact first name. 

I was taking the name of this woman in the past and associating all my pain with her and her name, and dragging it into my present moment. 

I felt my mind busting open right there next to gate C12. 

Our baggage can cycle back until we heal it all. We do NOT have to bring it into our future if we choose to heal it and let it go right now. Just because something bad happened in the past does not mean that it will happen again in the future. You can be free if you do the work to clean up your past messes.  

Maybe that's how I can get rose-colored glasses. By cleaning up the junk so that I can look ahead of me with clear eyes and an open heart.

Your turn. I want to hear from you. What resonated for you about my story of jealousy and past baggage? And why?Comment below and tell me your story.

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My End of Year Process of Clarity and Letting Go

I was talking with a coaching client the other night and he made a connection that I wanted to share. He noticed he was avoiding taking risks because it was a way that he could control the outcome. And by controlling the outcome, he was getting more of what he didn’t want and never allowing what he did want to come into his life.

It was such a brilliant insight that I wanted to jump up and down. First we identify what we really want. Then we come to terms with letting go of what is holding us back. After we let go of what’s not working, we can truly see how we were being held back.

This time of year is all about reflection and looking ahead. My plan for ending the year will include some reflection of lessons learned over the year and celebrations of accomplishments. And to prepare for the new year, I plan to clarify what I want and what I’m willing to let go of.

The queen of clearing clutter Marie Kondo teaches to let go of anything that does not “spark joy.” In my experience working with clients, I’ve seen so many people that don’t find it to be that  I think the reason why this became such a trend is because the advice is simple AND joy is something most of us want to be feeling in our lives. And surrounding yourself with items that make you feel that way is one way to feel joyful more of the time! Letting go of things that do not make us feel the way we want to feel just seems like a clean way to move forward. 

Let me ask you this: In the new year how do you want to feel?

Joyful? Free? Powerful? Abundant? Peaceful?

Pick a couple of words that most describe how you want to feel. Imagine yourself feeling that way right now. What do you notice about yourself? Does your breathing change? What about your physical energy level? Check in with your posture and notice if there are any adjustments. Pay attention to these sensations in your body, and make note so you can remember it.

Notice where in your life are you already feeling the way you want to feel. I have a friend who has a policy to do one thing every day that makes her feel beautiful. It might be wearing lipstick or nice earrings, or other days it’s wearing a really soft sweater. By giving herself this gift of beauty each day, she said she started to feel it ripple outwards to other parts of her life. She would see herself in the mirror and smile. She would notice more moments of beauty in her life. It sounds so simple.

How often do you step into those feelings that you want? I’m going to guess not as often as you’d like. It’s easy to get swept up into the daily bustle and forget about those feelings. Instead we must seek and create moments to feel how we want to feel, and only after that intentional moment will we start to find other opportunities.

And now, it’s time to let go. It’s time to shed the old skin of all the old habits that aren’t serving you. You know how you want to feel, and you’re not feeling it right now. What is standing in your way?

For my friend that wants to feel beautiful, letting go might mean throwing out items that are broken, worn out, or just no longer beautiful. And just like Marie Kondo says, each item may have a lesson for you. If it’s something you love but it’s no longer beautiful, is there something you can do to restore its beauty? If not, perhaps it’s a lesson to take better care of the items you cherish. You learned a lesson, so thank the item for serving that purpose and then let it go.

If you were being intentional about only having beautiful things in your bedroom but never got rid of anything, you would end up with piles of crap. Imagine bringing in new beautiful items and placing them around what’s already there. The space would get overcrowded. It wouldn’t feel beautiful anymore. We must create space in order to bring in the new.

I encourage you to let it go. Imagine how you want to feel on the other side, and keep that in the forefront of your mind. Let it steer you. And as you let go of each item, you can thank it for being useful. You can thank the ex boyfriends for teaching you lessons and then let them all go. You can thank the clothes that no longer fit you for covering your body for a while and then get rid of them. The old habits, the old ways of thinking and old stories that you once believe. Clear it out, make space for something new.

My wish for you for the end of the year and the start of 2019 is simple:

I wish you clarity. I wish you peace and joy. I wish you space to create exactly what you want.

I will be taking off from writing for the remainder of the year. I need to give myself some space and some rest. I am excited for the new year and for the fresh start that comes when the clock strikes midnight on December 31. Can you feel it?

Wishing you all the best and lots of love.

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